Friends Forever?

Listening to my mum singing along to Gregory Porter, with the lounge getting darker and darker as the summer sun starts to descend. I sit here and ponder how we manage to loose contact with people you were once best friends with, the people you used to tell everything to, the girls and guys you used to spend your evenings and weekends with and they knew everything about you and vice versa. Where has that all gone?

I write this as I know the feeling, from the moment I left school to go to a completely different college to the rest of my friends – in total 5 of us went to the college that was a little further away, when most of my friends went to the one down the road in my hometown. Unfortunately after a few months the people I had grown up with were just acquaintances, and now years on I wouldn’t have a clue what to say to any of them, which is so sad. I took a risk and it paid off in some ways but in other ways I really damaged my friendship circle.

Whilst at college I of course made new best friends and they became the people I told everything to and spent a lot of time chilling out during and after college, we became so close. Then once again I went my separate way, I decided to forego University for a year to work, whilst one of my friends went off to a Uni far away, and the other two also went into the working world. During this time we hardly got time to chat – life got in the way; there was never time just to hang out whenever in the week or weekend, as we all had different work schedules. I do see them from time to time, but no where near as much as I would like to.

What happens when you get older, will this happen for my whole life – I am hoping not?

All I know is that it is easier to stay in contact with people in this day in age, but at the same time it is also more difficult with so much going on in everyone’s lives, it is hard to fit in a visit to see an old friend. Everyone’s lives are just so full of stuff that we forget the little things – reminiscing and laughing.

I feel that we should all make more effort with the people in our lives, past and present to make sure that we have full futures. Where we sit on a porch and laugh about all the ridiculous stuff we used to get up to when we were 17!

I need to try harder – yes it is difficult to be always the one to text someone first and sometimes you feel like you put in all the effort, but after a while it may become second nature again and you can really value your friendship. I don’t mean talk 24/7 but making sure you are there for people when they need or want you there.

Now I’m 24 I have realised that I need to really cherish the people in my life, and get back into contact with the people who used to be my first port of call. Life has just gotten in the way and I really need to learn how to make time for people I really value as friends.

This post is a way of saying to my self get your arse in gear and see people again, or when I get older less and less people are going to be there for me. I don’t want to lose contact with anyone else. Funnily enough I am going to be meeting up with my three college friends in the next few weeks and I can’t wait. I just want people back in my life!

I always think about my wedding day, who will actually be sitting on my side of the isle, or who will I pick as my bridesmaids – I know it’s not the most important thing, as long as you and your partner are there who cares, but I do. I want to be able to have a few people on my side of the isle!

Friends enrich our lives, so we need to cherish and support them throughout our lives, before they are lost forever.

Forgive Me Blog For I Have Sinned

Hello,

I have been away for too long and for that I apologise. I have struggled for some time in working out where I place within the blogging world. I came into blogging three years ago now, when it was starting to gain more and more momentum into the powerhouse it is today. A lecturer at University told us all, that blogs were the future and we should all be blogging about anything and everything. I decided to start this blog, writing about what I knew...my own personal style. 

This was fine throughout university as I was always wearing whatever I wanted and I always had spare time to take outfit photos and write up pieces. Nowadays I work full time, where I wear an all black uniform and I find it difficult to find time to wear anything else. Home from work - leggings, jeans or my pyjamas are my first ports of call. 

Then on my days off I am so busy with other things that it is very hard to fit things in, especially when blogging has completely gone out of the window. I also find that I buy less clothes now as I don't have as much time to wear them! I still absolutely love clothes and personal style. It's funny as I work in the womenswear department of John Lewis, where I merchandise great brands, such as Warehouse - which I adore. I see all the newest clothes and I always have something in my hold pile! I feel like I may have lost my passion for it, and getting a work/life balance as proven very difficult, I seem to see clothes as work now rather than play! However I know in the back of my mind that I really want to get back into this world. 

I have always been passionate about fashion and style, and mine has definitely changed throughout the years (for the better) much like near enough everyone reading this! *cough* stripy arm warmers *cough* *cough* parachute pants with tassels *cough* - that one I am most ashamed of. 

On a slightly different note, I find the blogging community quite intimidating - I am not the most social person with people who I do not know, as I feel like I will be judged for not having great make up application (eyeshadow is my problem, I just can't apply it properly!) or the wrong lip stick colour on. I have gotten better through the years of being 'grown up' but I still find it hard, it really scares me - walking into a room where everyone knows everyone and no one knows you. Daunting! (this is just speculation as I have never had the courage to ever go to one!)

I also feel that blogging has changed throughout the years, it is more about advice than looking at what someone is wearing - which is great and I do enjoy reading them. However I feel that a lot of advice blogs have already been written or talked about. I think I want to go into more lifestyle posts - more restaurant reviews, travel writing, decorating ideas and tips etc. 

I really want to carry this blog on and really develop it into something I am really proud of. So please bare with me and I know that my little piece of the internet will grow and expand with me, as I get more ballsy and become more confident in my own skin. 

Thanks for sticking around! 

Speak soon

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